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How to dance Argentine Tango: salida cruzada variation
Facing the fact that to be rejected is always painful, the Porteños (people from Buenos Aires) developed the “cabeceo” (making eye contact) as the proper way to ask someone to dance. They look at the person they want to dance with.
This applies either for men a women.
If a person wants to dance with someone, one will let the other know by looking at that person and nodding the head when the other person looks back, making it a clear invitation to dance.
If that person wants to dance, she or he will answer back with an assenting sign with the head. After these subtle signs, the leader will go to the follower’s table (or where she is) and offering his hand, take her to the dance floor.
If the other person does not want to dance (man or woman), when the “eye contact” occurs, he/she will simple not respond.
This is a very simplified way to describe it. Reality is more subtle and complex. In any case, it is a good start if you are new to Tango.
Tango is a SOCIAL dance. The milonga is a place not only to dance, but also to meet new people, chat with friends, etc. It is seeing as a very inconsiderate attitude that someone comes to where you are to invite you to dance. It will be almost like saying: “I just want to dance with you and I don’t really care about you”.
While Tango is a dance that requires a situation of intimacy between the partners, asking to dance from a distance shows respect for the other person and her or his right to choose if that person wants to share the intimacy that Tango requieres with you.
There are many benefits of these “códigos”. One is that it takes in consideration the feelings of both partners, so when the dance finally happens, they both know they are where they want, which is an important requirement to have a good dance. They are not dancing because they have to.
The line of dance was already in the European dances in fashion of that time (1800’s). The counter clockwise direction was already used in waltz, the most popular dance before the appearance of Tango, and was used in other dances as well.
The Argentine Tango dancers just adopted it.
In Argentine Tango the line of dance is an expression of the dance itself, understanding it as a way of walking.
Also, it is the result of an agreement that shows the respect among the dancers on the dance floor. Seeing it from a practical point of view and making analogy: it is like traffic on the freeway, without the speed, but everyone is going in the same direction in your lane of traffic.